It's that time of the year....

It's that time of the year....

Thursday, April 12, 2012

As we grow older…

life becomes more precious.  Of course none of us know what each day will bring.  No matter our age this could be our last day on earth.

I tend to become more nostalgic as the years pass.  One thing I have accomplished over the years is developing a selective memory.  A selective memory is a good thing.  We can remember the things we want and block out the not so good stuff.  For instance, I can remember the first day I met Jim, the exact happenings on the days my children were born.  What the weather was like, what I wore to the hospital, etc.  I do not choose to remember unpleasant things, those are in a tiny corner of my brain marked ‘Don’t go there.’  This is called survival.  I choose to survive.  I love seeing each new day even though I know that I have something going to happen that day that I don’t want to face.

I have had the question posed to me about the c-pap.  I will not go into it here on my blog but those of you who have been my friends for a long time know the many things I am coping with health wise on a daily basis.  And that is enough said about that.  I just put that memory in the part of my brain marked ‘Don’t go there.’

I have let myself run out of bread.  One loaf does me for about 3 weeks until I finally give up and throw the last half of the loaf in the garbage.  I wanted toast last night and there was no bread.  Now I know that one of you, probably Auntie, will tell me to keep the bread in the freezer and take out a piece as I need it.  My freezer is full.  I do keep the bread in the fridge otherwise it wouldn’t last as long as it does.  What I am trying to say is I have to close this so that I can make a store hop for a loaf of bread and some bananas.

I hope you all have a good day.  Work on your selective memory.  Stay safe and be happy.
Beth

16 comments:

  1. I think you are very wise. It is always a good idea to remember the good stuff, and let the bad stuff go. Hopefully you have lots more GOOD things to remember, than BAD things to forget!

    I was wondering where you were! :) http://18chrysanthemums.blogspot.com

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    1. THANKS!! I believe I am all caught up now.

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  2. How true Beth, as you get older you do get more nostalgic, I find myself thinking of and remembering things from the past, and wishing in some cases that i could have the time again, If I find myself getting too melancholy, I try and shake it off by counting my blessings I have now.
    And yes, though I'm not Aunty, I'd also tell you to keep bread in the freezer, but, if you can make you loaf last you for three weeks, it's no great loss to throw half out. I still prefer to make mine, just done one this afternoon. I slice and freeze it but I go through about two a week. Enjoy your day

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  3. I am so behind on reading blogs. It is so good to read yours today. I also think I need to keep working on my selective memory.

    I also am dealing with much on my health. Like you, I choose not to go into it on my blog. Privately, let me know how the C-PAP is going if you wish. I am still adjusting to mine.

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  4. I concentrate on the good things too as much as I can. When the not good comes to mind, and it always does, I quickly shunt it off to the side car railing (so to speak) and go on with the present or something good in the past. Like you, I prefer not to go into the details of things we cannot prevent..everyone has them and ours are no more "interesting" than theirs. :-)

    xoxoxox

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  5. I expect your just about exactly right about memory. I've spent a lot of my life living in the hear and now. I even have a necklace I bought that has some symbols on it that literally means live for today on it. I am truly sorry for your health issues and know that this is an awful burden. I've spent a lot of my life helping care for relatives that have been very ill and hate to see the suffering in anyone. Bless you my friend, may the grace for even these things shine brightly upon you.

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  6. I do the same thing! It helps not be hurt over and over with some ppl :).

    HUGS to you hope all is going well.

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  7. I think selective memory is our reward for aging. Helping us cope with the daily life is positive way. Bread doesn't last long here and that's probably not alltogether good. Makes for quite the 'hipster' lol.

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  8. I have always had a strong tendency to want to just block out what I don't want to remember. Maybe we all do it to some extent. Choosing to remember the good parts is the way to go, as far as I'm concerned, too. Life is too short to dwell on the negative. Hope it's been a good day.

    I can't stand frozen bread. It gets too dry and hard for me. The frig is as far as I will go to keep bread, too. ;)

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  9. Good for you on your selective memory. I try to do that, but sometimes the other thought creep back into mind before you know how they got there.

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  10. I think it is healthy to remember the good things. Going through the bad things once is enough. By remembering the good things we get to live them again and again. : )

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  11. Good post, Beth. Selective memory is a good thing. And as I age, I enjoy reliving happy times when I try to go to sleep.

    I have a sugestion on the bread. When you get a new loaf, put two or three or four slices into sandwich bags so the whole loaf is in small bags. They will slip into small places in your freezer or in the one in your fridge. Have one out in the fridge thawing or thawed at all times. You will be able to use the whole loaf and always have some to use. If you only use 1 or 2 pieces,the rest lasts fine in the fridge for several days. Just an idea. :o) Beach Gal Bertie.

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  12. A very good idea Bertie. I will try that.

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  13. Remember you are loved. Me

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  14. Nice post Beth. I don't know of your health problems but I know you have always been a wonderful, dependable friend. I do appreciate your efforts when it comes to my blog. Maybe we'll meet some day.

    I don't know if I would personally put certain things in the "don't go there" part of my brain. There are things, that as much as I would want to forget, I should always remember, personaly, so that I don't do this or that again. Having said that, we all deal with our situations in our own ways.
    Ya know I've kept my bread in the fridge and out and I don't know if it really matters. I however consume much more bread than you. It's one of my weaknesses. If I buy bread at my favorite bakery I will buy 3, sticking two in the freezer.
    You can never get enough good bread talk.

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  15. I would love to meet you some day Paul. If things ever progress with your lady friend, let me know and I promise I will come to your wedding.

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